For busy moms who are used to having little ones underfoot or in their faces literally all day long, time alone often equates to surfing the Internet and nursing a cup of tea. Or maybe even binge watching TV and nursing something a little stronger.
While vegging out has its place, I think it’s equally important to take our alone time up a notch.
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As crazy as it sounds (at least to me) there are women out there who do NOT want to spend time alone. Perhaps it’s because they’ve become used to someone hanging on their legs and constantly having someone right there in their faces with sweet kisses. (This is not me, so I can only guess at why alone time doesn’t sound fun!) In any case, in the following video I clarify why I think it’s important for moms to spend time alone.
Now that we’ve looked at the reasons it’s important to spend time alone—let me clarify one thing: by alone time I mean QUALITY time.
When we consider how to spend time alone, we need to invest as much of ourselves into it as we do when we spend time with others. Think about it: we strive to spend quality time with our kids, quality time with our spouses, and if we’re believers we want to spend quality time with God.
But what about us?
It’s just as important for us to spend quality time with ourselves, and that means going beyond parking on the couch with a bag of chips and the remote.
Quality time means different things to different moms, but to me it means doing activities that nurture the soul, feed my creativity and leave me feeling ready to conquer the world. Or at least my corner of it.
What does quality time alone mean to you? Have you ever thought about it? Take a few seconds a think what it means to you so that you can make the most of each moment you have by yourself.
How to Spend Time Alone
Let’s talk about a few practical details, because you busy moms out there are probably looking at me cross-eyed right now and saying, “You’re joking, right?” I do realize that it’s hard to spend time alone at all, much less make it quality time. I mean, there’s only so much time between diaper changes and feedings. Am I right?
But remember, your needs matter too! So here are some pointers to ponder:
Set the time aside: do not leave this to chance because time will not magically appear
Find a fun activity for your kids: if you know your kids are in good hands and having fun, you don’t have to think about it
Plan the expense: quality alone time doesn’t have to be expensive, but depending on what you’re doing you don’t want to feel guilty about spending
If you think you really don’t have a minute to spare, here are some ideas on how to make time for yourself when you have a full schedule.
Now that we’ve addressed the practical issues, you might still be wondering what on earth to do for quality time alone. While quality time that feeds the soul and makes us ready to tackle life means different activities for each of us, I do have some ideas to get you started!
20 Ways to Spend Time Alone
1. Go to an art show
2. Watch a play
3. Visit a museum
4. Go to a nursery and admire the plants
5. Attend an open house (beware of envy!)
6. Relax at the library
7. Get a massage
8. Try new recipes
9. Shop in an unusual store, like antiques or mom & pop shops
10. Set up a home spa
If you don’t have a ready-made home spa, here are some ideas to get you started:
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11. Get a facial or makeover
12. Do some spiritual reading
13. Take a nature walk in a new area
14. Walk through a new neighborhood while listening to inspirational podcasts
15. Try a new hobby like painting or learning an instrument (if you can regularly schedule time!)
16. Browse a bookstore—used bookstores are especially great for creativity
17. Start a garden
18. Go see a movie (yes, alone!)
19. Walk around downtown and enjoy the sights
20. Go for a bike ride
Remember, quality alone time is a great time to try new things. Get out of your stagnant routine (dare I say rut?) and stretch yourself. It might feel uncomfortable to do things alone the first few times, but you’ll gradually grow to enjoy your own company.
The point is, invest as much quality into yourself as you invest into others. Moms matter too!
How do you spend quality time alone?