Have you ever noticed there are a bazillion articles out there about goal setting for every group of people…except moms? Okay, there are a few on goal setting for moms but many don’t address our needs. Even though we’re a broad group of people, we have issues that are specific to us—moms.
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Goal setting for moms is different than almost any other subset of people for one reason in particular: our main focus is not ourselves. While we may dutifully set our goals at the beginning of the year, as soon as life swoops in and kicks us in the butt, we shift our focus to our families.
Ask me how I know 😉
It’s times like those that we have to remind ourselves why goal setting for moms matters, even when we’re walking a tightrope just trying to keep the babies in clean diapers and the household from appearing on Hoarders.
So why does goal setting for moms especially matter? I’m glad you asked! Goal setting matters because it:
- Gives us something to look forward to for ourselves
- Allows us to grow as people and to see what we’re able to accomplish
- Keeps us from getting complacent (especially if we stay at home without much outside interaction)
- Demonstrates a healthy attitude for our kids
In any case, I believe that as moms we can set goals—even BIG GOALS—and still nurture our families and keep up with our responsibilities. Setting goals and making them happen is largely the same for moms as it is for anyone else, but there are a few tidbits I think are important for moms.
The first tidbit is to remember that moms matter too!
Goal Setting for Moms
Think Beyond Family
I know, I know! This goes against everything we are programmed to do! But moms matter too, and so do their goals. That means that it’s OK to think about goals that have nothing to do with our spouses or kids, goals that are just for us. That’s not to say they shouldn’t be involved—to the contrary—but it does mean that we don’t have to center everything we do around the wee people.
Throw Away Mommy Guilt
This coincides with thinking beyond the family. Taking care of yourself and doing things for yourself should never produce guilt, especially if your life is in balance and you’re taking care of your family in every other aspect. However, it’s hard not to feel guilty if you’re taking time and/or resources “away” from the family. I totally get that!
But just for a moment, flip it around and think about how achieving your goals will benefit them. It may be that eventually reaching your goal will help your family financially, or it could be as simple (and important) as the family having a happy, healthy mom.
Involve the Kids
One of the biggest hurdles in goal setting for moms is the kids. Sometimes kids react to less mom time, or sometimes there’s no time at all. Sometimes the kids just don’t get why you’d want to do anything that’s not about them. While it’s good for kids to know they aren’t the center of the universe, there are ways to balance out mom goals with kids.
Make them your accountability partners. Kids LOVE reminding adults about what they should (or shouldn’t) be doing. Consider whether your goal can be tracked with a chart or some other method where the kids can jump in and give you a smiley face…or a frowny one! Also, if your goal has anything to do with fitness, see if you can incorporate them into the fun. It won’t always work, but that type of thinking can help you overcome the kid hurdle.
One note: don’t use your kids as an excuse. Yes, it’s our responsibility to care for them, but if we don’t achieve our goals it’s not because of them.
Moms, it’s time to set your dreams into motion by turning them into actionable goals! What is it you want to accomplish? Do you want to get a degree, write a novel, start a business, get healthy? Whatever it is, start planning! We get one shot at this life and we don’t want to make our exit with regrets.
That’s why I wrote LAUNCH! Strategies for Setting Goals and Making Them Happen, an e-course that has:
- 5 modules
- 5 video pep talks
- 30+ pages of tips, strategies, and worksheets
Whether you’ve had a goal that you’ve been struggling for years to achieve, or you’re starting with a brand new goal, this course can help you take charge of your goals and launch into life!